NEW YORK (AP) โ It can be hard to catch Carrie Coon on her own.
She is far more likely to be found in the thick of an ensemble. That could be on TV, in โThe Gilded Age,โ for which she was just Emmy nominated, or in the upcoming season of โThe White Lotus,โ which she recently shot in Thailand. Or it could be in films, most relevantly, Azazel Jacobsโ new drama, โHis Three Daughters,โ in which Coon stars alongside Natasha Lyonne and Elizabeth Olsen as sisters caring for their dying father.
But on a recent, bright late-summer morning, Coon is sitting on a bench in the bucolic northeast Westchester town of Pound Ridge. A few years back, she and her husband, the playwright Tracy Letts, moved near here with their two young children, drawn by the long rows of stone walls and a particularly good BLT from a nearby cafe that Letts, after biting into, declared must be within 15 miles of where they lived.

In a few days, they would both fly to Los Angeles for the Emmys (Letts was nominated for his performance in โWinning Timeโ ). But Coon, 43, was then largely enmeshed in the day-to-day life of raising a family, along with their nightly movie viewings, which Letts pulls from his extensive DVD collection. The previous nightโs choice: โOnce Around,โ with Holly Hunter and Richard Dreyfus.
Coon met Letts during her breakthrough performance in โWhoโs Afraid of Virginia Woolf?" at Steppenwolf in 2010. She played the heavy-drinking housewife Honey. It was the first role that Coon read and knew, viscerally, she had to play. Immediately after saying this, Coon sighs.
โIt sounds like something some diva would say in a movie from the โ50s,โ Coon says. โI just walked around in my apartment in my slip and I had pearls and a little brandy. I made a grocery list and I just did that all day. I thought how crazy you must go when youโre alone like that, when your sole purpose is to have a baby.โ
Coon grew up outside working-class Akron, Ohio, and Honey reminded her of some of her relatives โ women either trapped in gender roles like Honey or strong-willed exceptions who defied them. Ever since, Coon has brought to life a wide array of women on screen with acute perceptiveness and fierce intelligence. She may be a character-actor chameleon resistant to movie stardom, but she doesnโt blend in. A movie tends to stand up on its feet when Coon is on screen.

โCelebrities are encouraged to be the star of the show, because thatโs what they do. And Iโm an actor. Iโm not a celebrity,โ says Coon. โIโm always going to be part of the ensemble. The storytelling should happen between people. I donโt like the other thing. Iโm not interested in selfishness. Itโs not fun.โ
A conversation with Coon, however, is. She skips easily between self-deprecation and sincere reflection, existential doom and creative belief, book recommendations and parenting laments. As much as sheโs an actor head to toe, Coon didnโt do it until her senior year of high school. In between trying half a dozen majors, she performed in plays in college and was coaxed into applying to graduate programs for acting by a professor.
โIt felt like a lark. It felt like: What a great way to spend your 20s,โ Coon says, smiling. โI thought: If it doesnโt work out, the world is big and interesting and Iโll just do something else. And it just kept working out. And itโs been really steady and slow and workmanlike.โ
Like her character in โHis Three Daughters,โ Coon grew up with siblings. Her father ran the family auto parts store, and her mother was a nurse who often worked nights. Coon, the middle child of five, often with her older sister babysat the young boys. โThere was a lot of responsibility,โ she says. โIt was character building. Itโs good to do laundry when youโre 8.โ

In โHis Three Daughters,โ which begins streaming Friday on Netflix, three very different sisters are brought together in a small New York apartment and, with their ailing father in the next room, argue through some of their old divisions while wrestling with their developing grief. They start out a little like stereotypes โ Lyonne is the stoner, Olsen the sweetly naive one and Coon the pushy, presumptuous older sister โ but each character grows more nuanced. Coon is eager to praise Lyonne (โAt the height of her powersโ) and Olsen (โEverything she does is luminousโ), and together they form an indelible trio in one of the yearโs most lived-in dramas.
Asked if Coon was thinking about her own family in filming โHis Three Daughters,โ she lets out a laugh. โI mean, I was thinking of me!โ she says. Coon adds that, unlike her character Katie, sheโs sensitive and communicative.
โBut I also act like an older sibling," she says. "Iโve worked very hard in my life at things that have been challenging for me. Iโve chosen to go to therapy. Iโve chosen to work on myself. And Iโm very successful. So I feel greatly entitled to give my siblings lots of advice whether they want it or not. (Laughs) And I have to say, my husband is so good at not giving unsolicited advice. He gives great advice, but you have to ask. And I find that shocking!โ
Jacobs, the veteran indie filmmaker, delivered scripts for โHis Three Daughtersโ simultaneously to his three stars. Actors are often valued by their box-office appeal, Jacobs notes, but Coonโs worth is harder to define.

โMe telling Natasha and Lizzie that Iโm also sending the script to Carrie was a huge, huge factor for them,โ Jacobs said. When shooting on โThe Gilded Ageโ delayed Coonโs availability, Jacobs and the co-stars agreed they should all wait for her. Coon, whose films include Sean Durkinโs โThe Nestโ and the recent โGhostbustersโ movies, is more accustomed to going after what she wants.
โIโm happy to fight. Iโm very scrappy. Iโm an athlete. Bring it on!โ Coon, a former soccer player, says. โBut itโs nice to say: We both want this.โ
โI always say: If Iโm seeking something, I havenโt read it yet,โ Coon says. โBecause of where I am in the Hollywood hierarchy, the 10 movies that get made for women donโt include me. I have to fight for that stuff still. So, if I have ambition, itโs in fighting for the things that are good and the filmmakers who are challenging.โ
In Coonโs performance, Jacobs sees her subtly playing qualities in Katie that donโt explicitly manifest into well into the film, as her characterโs fears and vulnerabilities grow more evident. โYou realize thereโs been a step into something else, something magical, something that is the soul that I believe Carrie Coon brought to this character,โ says Jacobs.
Death hovers over โHis Three Daughters,โ a subject that inevitably brings Coon to climate change. She worries deeply about its exponentially expanding impact and what it might mean for her childrenโs lives. Coon starts tearing up while she wonders: โSome of the decisions like, โwhere to go to collegeโ maybe donโt matter to them. Perhaps what we need to do is maximize our time together.โ
Coon just spent six months in Thailand shooting the third season of โThe White Lotusโ where, she says, โthe ocean was a hot bath, with plastic from last summer washing up on the shore.โ
For her, it casts a different light on her work.
โOn one hand, Iโm grateful that I get to provide some joy in the form of โThe Gilded Ageโ for example. But Iโm also complicit in the pacification machine thatโs keeping peopleโs heads down. So Iโm conflicted about that,โ Coon says. โRevolution is whatโs called for. But I donโt think the human race is up for it. So I really wrestle with my own inaction in the face of that helplessness.โ
Coon canโt stop from laughing at herself. โIโm basically a doomsday prepper without an insulated basement for my supplies or an AR-15 to protect them," she says.
Another way to look at Coonโs concern is as an extension of her interest, as an actor, in the human condition. The global community is maybe another ensemble that Coon would like to play a role in, and see through to the next act.
โAs an artist, I donโt know how you can be ignorant about it," says Coon. "You have to engage with those questions. Itโs life and death. Itโs the full scope of human existence.โ
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This story has been updated to correct that Coon is the middle child of five.