Gaslighting and love-bombing, meet spider-webbing

Singles have a new dating trend to beware of—it's called 'Spider-Webbing.' The term refers to a complex mix of toxic behaviors that, over time, trap people in unhealthy relationships.*

Emma Hathorn, a dating expert at Seeking.com, describes 'Spider-Webbing' as a series of manipulative actions that can ensnare individuals in messy and harmful relationships, making them feel stuck and emotionally drained. These behaviors can include ghosting, love-bombing, and gaslighting, which have become more prevalent recently.

In an article published in the Independent, Hathorn stresses why it's crucial to tackle this growing issue. She explains, 'Addressing this trend matters because it threatens the emotional health of those affected and undermines trust and honesty in dating.' Such behaviors can leave lasting emotional scars, damage self-esteem, and breed mistrust in future relationships.

Dating coach James Preece notes that Spider-Webbing does exist but is not very common. He warns against attributing all negative relationship experiences to this term. “While this trend certainly does exist, it’s crucial to note that it’s not very common and few people are this manipulative or nasty,” he explains.

To recognize if you are a victim of Spider-Webbing, there are some clear warning signs. One sign is an emotional rollercoaster in the relationship. According to Hathorn, “If you’re experiencing intense highs and lows that leave you feeling uncertain, it could be a sign you’re subject to some Spider-Webbing tactics.” Healthy relationships should provide stability and support, not constant emotional turmoil.

Another sign includes constant criticism from the partner or double standards in the relationship. Hathorn advises trusting your instincts if something feels wrong. “If something doesn't feel right, if you have a persistent feeling of unease, or if you find yourself questioning your own judgment, trust your instincts,” she says. She suggests discussing your concerns with your partner or seeking opinions from friends who might point out red flags you have overlooked.

Understanding Spider-Webbing helps to re-establish dating as a respectful and honest pursuit. By recognizing these harmful patterns, individuals can work towards building meaningful relationships free from manipulation and toxicity.