The “orange peel theory” has recently garnered attention on social media, particularly TikTok, as a simple way to gauge relationship health. The theory suggests that a partner's willingness to do small tasks, like peeling an orange, demonstrates their love and commitment.
Basically, it's all about whether your other half will do little things for you, like peeling an orange, as a sign they care. This idea blew up on TikTok last year and came back with a vengeance when a video of two lovebirds talking about it racked up a crazy 20 million views.
But hold up - relationship gurus are saying we shouldn't be too quick to judge our partners based on these overly simple tests. Kate Mansfield, a dating and relationship coach, told The Independent, "We all need to be willing to accommodate and satisfy our partner's needs and wants – but only up to a point. Balance here is key."
According to Jane Parker, another relationship coach, described the theory as a "generalization" that may only apply to certain individuals. She emphasized that people express and perceive love differently, often aligning with the concept of "love languages."
In an article in the Independent, both experts warned against deliberately testing partners based on social media trends. Mansfield says, "Testing our partner to gauge the level of love based on social media trends is a dangerous game. It is definitely not a sign of a healthy relationship."
Instead, the coaches recommend focusing on overall relationship dynamics and open communication. Parker advised, "It's how your partner makes you feel overall that is the true test."
While small acts of kindness can be meaningful in relationships, experts suggest that using them as a sole measure of love oversimplifies complex interpersonal dynamics. They encourage couples to discuss their needs and expectations directly rather than relying on indirect tests or social media challenges.