Bride thinks her mother is trying to 'sabotage' wedding

According to a post on Reddit, a bride's excitement about her wedding is marred by what she says is her mother trying to "sabotage" the event.

The unidentified woman expressed her displeasure over her mother's conduct prior to her wedding and expressed concerns that her mother's behavior was distracting from what should have been a joyful event.

"I'm pretty sure my mom is trying to sabotage the wedding," the bride wrote in her post. The bride also noted that her mother hasn't been a part of the wedding planning process financially or emotionally.

The bride, who is 30, has described her fiancé as "her rock" and "by far the kindest and most gentle man I've ever met." She also said she was eager to celebrate "one of the happiest moments in our lives" before the family feud erupted.

According to the article and post, tension between mother and daughter has resulted in various ways. The bride claimed that her mother had expressed criticism of her appearance, pointing out that her hair "looks messy" and needs to be trimmed and lightened. The bride also said that her mother was unhappy with the choice of wedding location.

The problem worsened when the bride tried to express her grievances directly to her mother. "I told her how I felt about her treatment, how it just makes me cry and I'm tired of it," the bride wrote. But, she wrote that her mother reacted with a call to her "disrespectful and ungrateful."

The bride also remarked on her mother's absence at key wedding-related functions, including her wedding dress fitting. The bride also mentioned that it's an ancestral tradition for mothers to organize the shower for the bride's mother; however, when she was asked about this, her mom "just blew me off." The bride's step-grandmother and step-stepmother have offered to host the shower instead.

The news has led to some criticism from the bride's mother's family. "Now I'm getting flak from my mom's side of the family for letting my bonus family plan [the shower]," she wrote.

Given their current relationship, the bride expressed doubt about whether her mother would be able to attend the wedding. "I wouldn't be surprised if she just no-shows to the wedding to be spiteful or wears white to try to make the day about her," she wrote.

In her post, she sought help from fellow Reddit users who might have had similar experiences with their mothers in wedding planning.

Many commenters have offered assistance and suggestions for the bride. One person wrote, "I'm sorry that you're going through this. You deserve a better mom." Another user advised, "Enjoy a peaceful, joyous wedding minus her. Congratulations."

A few commenters advised the bride to think about what she can be thankful for in her wedding and the love she's received from family members. "Enjoy your bonus family and family to be and give no more thoughts to her [behavior]," one user suggested.